THIS is an 8-minute version of the topic produced on January 8, 2014, and remains Ross Rosenberg’s all time most viewed video. Its popularity is attributed to its practical usefulness. The Observe Don’t Absorb Technique (ODA) provides a person who is manipulated and/or harmed by an individual who derives power and control through the use of emotional domination, capacity to set successful boundaries with Pathological Narcissists (NPD, BPD, ASPD and addicts), and survive the backlash, with a variety of insights, strategies, and tools.
ODA was originally developed to empower and assist people recovering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency), who are magnetically attracted to and perpetually stuck in relationships with manipulative and harmful Pathological Narcissists (Narcissistic, Borderline and Antisocial Personality Disorders). Through the use of this powerfully effective defense technique, survivors of Narcissistic Abuse are educated how to “fight back” with the most potent weapon of all: to purposeful, mindful and conscious dissociation. By allowing narcissists to trigger or activate them emotionally, they are helplessly pulled into a fight in which they believe they can win, but never do.
George Bernard Shaw must have known about ODA! His quote, "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it” embodies the heart and soul of the dilemma Self-Love Deficients (codependents) encounter when facing off with Narcissists.
The completely revised and extended 80-minute version is available here: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars-downloads/products/the-observe-don-t-absorb-technique
Companion ODA videos are:
Choosing to Stay with a Narcissist While Using the Observe Don't Absorb Technique. https://youtu.be/V9TzYV3SiqQ
Applying Observe Don't Absorb Technique by Using Defensive Fantasy Techniques. https://youtu.be/OVKwxd5fkmo
Ross Rosenberg's latest book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) and his personal development, seminar, workshop and other services can be found at https://www.selfloverecovery.com
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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